I’m just gonna be honest with you. I’m in no place to date right now. I’m not interested in anything where your primary or only goal is sex, and I’m gonna know if that’s your aim and ignore you or stop talking to you immediately. Ditto if your profile history shows anything bigoted or hints at anger issues, if you post a bunch of thirsty stuff or have lewds or nudes on your profile, or if it’s obvious that you haven’t read mine, my old linked profile below, or this post.

I’m massively burned out with extreme compassion fatigue. I’m probably not capable right now of being the emotional provider with a savior complex that I usually am. I can’t always be your shoulder to cry on. I can’t afford another bond with someone who won’t reciprocate the same love, care, effort, initiative, emotional availability/maturity/intelligence, and attention to detail that I do when I’m feeling well. I can’t consistently pull my usual psychic Jedi mind tricks and be wildly empathetic and read you like a book 100% of the time. If you have severe depression, avoidant tendencies, or any other characteristic that causes you to pull away or communicate with silence, please kindly don’t message me.

Right now, I really just need to be emotionally taken care of. I know no one owes me anything, and I’m not expecting that. But if you’re interested in messaging me, and have a monogamous Caregiver bent, just know that even at my worst, I can promise I always do everything I can to treat those closest to me with the utmost respect, and not take my bullshit out on them. I am fiercely loyal and devoted. When I have the spoons, I give very selflessly, even despite myself and my own needs (and really need help from someone else to check me on this and not enable me). I don’t give up on people, and I don’t give up on myself. I always strive for accountability, and I won’t allow myself to be a drain on you. I fawn, and I don’t work well with people who don’t also fawn, or who are at all prone to anger, frustration, or defensiveness; I’m extremely sensitive and fragile. I’m clingy and needy, and with time and trust, I would likely fall hard and love you like an obsessed puppy or a child looking up to their role model who can do no wrong. I would like that to go both ways.

Above all, I need someone who can calm my nervous system. Someone who has the consistency and stability of a boulder, and never stops making me feel welcome and wanted in every way possible. I require continuous, open, emotional communication and ample emotional availability in both directions. I also need someone who will be direct, forthcoming with reassurance and being transparent about their emotional state and intentions, give praise, and who will gently lead the conversation. If you’re prone to being blunt and terse or otherwise tire easily from discussing feelings at length, please don’t message me. I need to be handled like I’m made of glass, because that’s what it feels like sometimes. An abused, neglected, stray animal who’s scared of everyone. I need to learn to trust and to feel safe again. I’m not looking for someone to be my sole source of accountability. I just need you to know yourself extremely well, and be able to prove to me through your actions that there’s people out there who do what I do, and treat littles like the precious angels they are and not disposable hearts to break because the dominant party doesn’t have their shit together and won’t be honest with themselves that they’re just looking for someone to save them from being lonely.

Ideally you can help me come out of my body dysmorphia shell and feel more confident. But please don’t take that as an invitation for sex. If it happens it happens, but it’s not something I can do right now for many reasons, and if you bring it up first I won’t talk to you anymore. I’m also only looking for men or masc/butch sapphics. My appearance is very polarizing, but most people seem to think I’m very attractive. I don’t mind sharing SFW photos.

I just need to heal, and I need your help to do it. I have a huge heart and will stop at nothing to make you happy and reciprocate everything that I’m given in return for bringing me peace.