I posted 4 weeks ago with pretty specific parameters (24-44, single, no ENM, and no dick pics). In an effort to help more of Reddit get laid, and less of Reddit get blocked, I thought I’d share some insight from the perspective of a woman who comes to Reddit for casual hookups (and sometimes succeeds):

Out of over 200 messages, I met up with two people, and had sex with neither (the vibe just wasn’t there). But of those 200 messages…

• 39 were under 24 years old
• 12 were over 44 years old
• 18 admitted to being married or otherwise committed
• 4 were women (2 looking for a partner for their men)
• I quit counting at 50 but the sheer number of “hey”, “wyd”, and just a single emoji was astounding (and annoying. Nobody’s responding to that).
• 27 dick pics (four people apologized when I called them out and asked for another shot)
• 17 people messaged me suggesting what I should do to them sexually (two even asked me to cook them dinner)
• 6 sent me long erotic stories about what they’d like to do to me (without ever seeing me)
• 2 asked for nudes after being informed I wouldn’t be sending anything but a picture of my face and a sfw pic of me fully clothed
• 4 messaged me extremely long, disturbing fantasies that had nothing to do with me.
• I eliminated half based on toxic post history or something that turned me off.

A solid 80% of the messages petered out because the other party was solely interested in hearing about my sexual proclivities, or trying to force their own onto me when I informed them we didn’t share interests (if you try it, you’ll like it…bleh)

Full disclosure: with the sheer number of messages, it was difficult for me to keep up with everyone. I chatted with most folks who had interesting first messages, then kind of let them take the lead. In a few instances, I got turned off by how insistent or urgent the other party was. I do truly mean the “friend” part of friend with benefits.

I was pretty straightforward if I wasn’t physically attracted to someone. I gave my number to a few people that I did like.

Overall…this round was unsuccessful but I made a couple of new friends, and learned even more about this delightfully (and often disturbingly) weird side of the internet, and am here to tell ladies (and gentlemen): BE SAFE, be smart, and trust your gut when it comes to Reddit hookups.