About me

- Cis woman, average/healthy weight, under 5 feet, "busty petite"

- Very independent. Own my house, own my company, have my retirement accounts. Used to live alone, but that was too quiet, so now I keep housemates around. Generally speaking, I "have my shit together", and you should too.

- Work in adult entertainment. Have a team of employees, which really helps with work/life balance and lots of flexibility! I'm not here to advertise, and will not be immediately sharing my work identity.

- Attracted to intelligence. The term "sapiosexual" has become pretentious and nauseating, but there's something to it... I need to be able to have real conversations, and we should be able to constantly learn from each other!

- Generally identify as "queer". Labels are weird, sexual attraction is a finicky thing. Someone's genitals don't matter to me. It's all about the connection we have, and our compatibility. I've been with men, women, trans and nonbinary people, it's all great! (I usually post F4M on Reddit, to reduce bot spam, but I'm always open to partners of any gender)

- Childfree. Recently sterilized. No kids, never having kids. I woke up from sterilization surgery, confirmed that the tubes were gone, and promptly (and perhaps too loudly) proclaimed, "Yay! No babies!!"

- Non-monogamous, often practicing solo-polyamory. I'm fine with you having other partners, or being married, as long as everyone knows and consents.

- Love to travel. In normal times, I take trips monthly. Usually only for pleasure, but occasionally for work if it sounds like a fun opportunity! Sometimes I travel with friends and family, but I take lots of solo trips too, including internationally. Travel hacking is a hobby of mine, who doesn't love flying international business class with points?

- Keep busy with animal rescue and immigration volunteering. Love learning more about psychology, sociology, and neuroscience. Read often, especially sci-fi.

The kink/what I'm looking for

- Power exchange is a must. What that looks like exactly, can be defined collaboratively. Looking for something with long-term potential, no hookups.

- Some brat tendencies during play, but it depends a lot on the person and how much they encourage that. Even without bratting, I don't care to take life seriously 100% of the time. Fun is important! Laughter is healthy! You ever try telling a sub caught in a giggle-fit to stop laughing while spanking her? It's fantastic.

- Top 4 kinks: Impact play (stingy!); orgasm control/denial; objectification; bondage.

- I'm not looking for online only. I'm not really a fan of anything requiring NSFW pics, video calls... I expect we'll be able to meet up occasionally to spend in person time together.

- Absolutely not into '1950s household' dynamics. My weekly housecleaner is the true VIP of my household, and I can't remember the last time I turned my oven on. I'm also not planning for any relocation at this time.

- Less common hard limits: Anything in or on my mouth (yes, that includes giving oral. Sorry not sorry, it isn't negotiable); face slapping; choking.

- Other hard limits, include but not limited to: Bathroom play; permanent marks; needles or cutting; almost everything illegal

You, ideally...

- At least 28 years old

- Some experience with kink already, and a good idea of what you're looking for. This is a requirement.

- Live in Atlanta, particularly towards the east. I'm medically unable to drive right now, so proximity really does make a difference. (Sorry, currently not interested in "making it work" with anyone further than ~30 minutes away)

- Are patient. Even if we click really well, we're not just going to be meeting up immediately! Things take time to blossom, for mutual trust to build. Some patience during in-person scenes is also required, as I have health concerns that can sometimes create brief but unexpected interruptions.

- Stay aware of and take reasonable precautions against infections (COVID, flu/viruses, STIs, and others)

- Are not a cop, immigration officer, or anyone who otherwise is in the habit of violating human rights. We will not get along.

Let's talk more!

- You must have a bio of some sort. A post on BDSMPersonals, your profile, Fetlife, or similar is all good. More is more; I'm happy to read it all! I have a lot written here so that you can assess compatibility early on, and I expect to be able to do the same.

- As we all know, women tend to get a lot of messages here. I read every single one, but I'm pretty discerning, and most interested in the right fit. Help me know from the very beginning that you check the boxes I've listed above!

- Reddit chat strongly preferred over DMs.