Or just family members you aren’t close with, family members you don’t get along with due to opposing personalities/beliefs/past actions you don’t feel comfortable with. I feel like there’s this tremendous pressure to like and care about members of your family even if you hardly know them and they haven’t ever done anything to “earn” your love. Case in point, I never felt very close to my grandparents. I hardly ever saw them. I had a difficult time communicating with them because of cultural and generational barriers. My mum acts like I’m an emotionless monster for not really liking my paternal grandmother but I don’t understand why I’m obligated to like this woman whom I have nothing in common with besides genetics, who is old-fashioned and conservative and likes my older brother more than me, who raised my father to be just a tad entitled and emotionally immature, and whom my mum doesn’t even like herself (she pressured my mum to have kids and treated her pretty nastily, which is actually horrible!). Same goes with my aunts on that side of the family. I hardly ever see them, they performatively seem to care about me to some extent but my most notable memories of them are how they constantly demand this and that from my mum when they visit and never help out, causing her to become stressed and take it out on me. I’m not sure if this is an ND thing but people have to give me a reason to like them; I don’t see why someone being related to you means you should love them by default. Obviously, parents SHOULD love their children but why should a grandchild love a grandparent they can’t connect with? Family bonds mean nothing to me unless I’ve actually had meaningful positive interactions with the given individual. Anyone else ever felt like this?