My family upbringing and only thing my parents always wanted from me was "I don't care what you do, just be a good man"

Im at a job I've been at for 10 years now (33) only reason I stay is because of health/union benefits, I have cluster headaches, 3 leaves of absence due to mental health since I've been there. Also I've been bullied/harassed in the past, also mistreated by the human resources.. I have alot of passion for entertainment, be it writing, comedy, acting, singing, music as well as just being a good person through friendships.. I see life opportunities more visually, if that makes sense. At this point in my life, I don't feel valued or valued enough. The people around me all have significant others, whilst I am alone to rely on

I don't know which direction to take.

I just feel like I am too many steps behind with everything life has thrown at me. Like constricted to hold one priority while the others are constantly running around my feet. Am I really designated to be benched because no one thinks that I (or any one else who has ASD) can have success, security, fulfillment of life and love?

Thank you for your time Reddit