I've wondered if this is more of an ADBD thing than an autism thing, but hey, I don't have an ADHD diagnosis as of yet.

I'm in a B&B with my dad, ready to head out tomorrow morning to a nearby art college to give them my art portfolio. Turns out I forgot to print out a really important document which has to be attached to my portfolio case. Now I'm banking on explaining my situation to a librarian in the university who may be able to log me onto a computer and print the document for me. What makes this sting more is that I'm explaining this to Dad, and he basically tells me about how I have to be more organised in the future, and that I could have resolved all this quite easily if I'd properly planned it out. And he's right.

I could have fixed this so easily with a little to do list. I've always got a thought in the back of my mind about how I could do a little check before I head out or before I go to bed, but when the time comes, it just slips my mind. Diligence and discipline have always been an interference in many aspects of my life, such as cleaning the house and my room, as well as achieving my own personal goals such as learning languages - it feels like even 10 minutes a day for a single on Duolingo I can't manage. I'm so desperate to become independent and take my life into my own hands and things like this make it feel like I'll never get to that point.

I've tried apps. I've tried to do lists. I've got TWO big whiteboards which I bought with the intention of separating my daily/weekly tasks. I don't want to believe there is no solution to my problems, but every time I run into an issue like this, I feel defeated.

If any other aspies struggle with this or have found workarounds that help them with their discipline and self management, I would greatly appreciate your input.