Im really curious. Let me explain why: I have met many men and women with autism/aspergers irl and online and every single guy that I talk to who is in a relationship or has had sexual/romatnic relationship experience before has told me that they were only able to experience it because their partner was the person who was sexually interested in them first. Which causes me to repeatedly, incorrectly assume that as an aspie male to fall in love, you need to be good looking and conventionally sexually attractive. This can't be the only answer. I have immense struggles with obsessive compulsive thinking and I keep triggering my depression and feeling of impending doom whenever I think about how the only chance for me as an aspie to fall in love would require me to be conventionally physically attractive by being, tall, white, etc. I don't fit this criteria as Im only 5'5, Im balding and Im also of indian ethnicity, which isn't particularly seen as conventionally attractive in western society due to racist stereotypes of being hairy, nerdy, shy, etc. So as a result of seeing all these dudes repeatedly saying the same thing that it was due to their good looks, I feel very down and depressed and obsessively think about being the weird loner virgin cringe uncle. I want to stop having these thoughts.

So that is why Im asking you guys. I just want to build my confidence with some inspiration of similar stories of guys on the spectrum who aren't lucky enough to meet western beauty ideals yet were still able to "woo" or get a woman to like them.

However, if you did have the experience where you partner was first interested in you due to your physical attractiveness, by all means, please tell me about your experience I would love to hear your story too :)