My mom often berates me for fucking up a lot. Her biggest issue is have debt (which is mostly my fault). But outside debt, it is kind of stupid. My ex would berate me in a similar manner for acting so stupid. It is funny they tell me to flow with the punches, but they are the ones that have melt downs on vacations or over other things. My mom in particular often likes to pick at things, like how I missed a flight despite being 10 miles from it (sorry traffic never used to be this bad), missing a bus (despite the bus board not working and the ticket lady being unhelpful and the toilets not working), my relationships (why did you let her use you, idk maybe because I felt like shit from autism), my recent medical debt that got garnished from one pay check (sorry I thought an HSA card was like a debit card, not needing 50 authorizations), and kicking out a room mate who threatened my life(need to pay a lawyer but used that money to pay the medical bill).

It is all find and dandy as she has not left the hometown they are in (my mom) and don't want to do anything but then criticize me for trying to do better and be the man (yeah I get it male pride or whatever, whatever), but then don't consider that I am doing this while on the spectrum. My mom has been helpful in letting me borrow so I am greatful, but the criticism for things mostly outside my control is asinine. Have you dealt with multiple variable like this in a global economy? No p? Then why do you say I fuck up so much? For being on the spectrum I think I do pretty damn good.