I'm frustrated with the recurring pattern where a new friend likes certain things about me, then backs away when my asd starts making me seem weird.

My ASD isn't super apparent all the time, so I can stay stealth in a lot of social situations. But it starts affecting relationships after a few interactions.

I never tell people I have ASD, partly because I don't want to seem like I'm asking for attention, or trying to seem special & needy. I also (importantly) figure that people won't know how to account for my ASD, or don't have the energy to spare.

But then I'm left where I am. So I assume disclosing my ASD would only help with friends who seem to have the energy and ability to care & make room for this.

Do what works for you? Who do you tell, when and how? I assume it depends a bit on how apparent your ASD is...

Bummed out. :/