I will say this is really only with older people. I can argue with people my age perfectly fine with not a single tear, that’s actually not a problem at all. This has been something i’ve been aware of and struggled with since i was a child. My earliest memory of this was in fifth grade when a boy called me a name and i yelled a cuss word back at him, and ultimately was the one who got in trouble. My teacher took me outside and i wasn’t sad, i was angry he wasn’t in trouble and wanted to get my point across and for some reason cried while explaining what went down. That moment is when i realized that i couldn’t control my cry when i talked to adults. It happened countless times growing up, with teachers, my counselor, one time i simply wanted to change out of choir in middle school and before i could even state why to my counselor i started bawling? god. easily happened a dozen times in school. And of course every. single. argument. with my parents, no matter how calm i was or if i wasn’t even in trouble just having serious conversations brought tears every time. I can’t talk to a therapist without crying, i’ve been to dozens of sessions and i cried at every single one. I’ve even asked bosses at jobs if i could leave early and cried. Lately it’s been at work, i’ve been clashing with my co workers and like i said, i can argue with them perfectly fine it’s just when it comes to talking to my supervisor about the situation, we’ve talked about it 5 times over the last month and i cried every single time. Within a minute i can’t control it and it’s so embarrassing and frustrating. I genuinely feel like the example men use about women being too emotional for important jobs. How can i stop this?