I’m cut to the core because I love her so much. I lost my first girlfriend and love. Her three children and her are my whole world. And I don’t know if she’s waiting for me to text her or if she’s just done with me. She said I treated her the best she’s been treated, that I got her to finish more times than anyone else, that her kids love me, and that she would be lucky to have me. We lived together for 4 months And she told me that she doesn’t know what she wants. Her best friend told me she doesn’t want monongamy and I know since the breakup in September she’s seen other dudes and her ex gf (who she was seeing while we were together). She said I love you as recently as January. I don’t want to lose her and she said she still wants me in her life, but hasnt spoken to me in 3 weeks and I have cried everyday. I’m trying to do “no contact” and see if she misses me or something. I’m supposed to get clarity about her, but all I know is that I want to give her and the kids a good life so bad. What can I do? I’ve read that i can’t ‘get’ someone back, because they have to choose to come back. But I feel like if I just tried harder or bought the right gifts or said the right things that maybe she would be with me again. I would do everything in my power to sort through to make the relationship work. If I keep up no contact, won’t she just forget me and lose all feelings? If she rejects me I’ll be crushed. Everyone has said more fish in the sea by the way.

Tldr; I’m super heartbroken and want my gf and her kids back. How, if at all, should I reestablish contact after 3 weeks radio silence.