My mom just texted me this:

I am hurting so badly & so deeply . It’s hard for me to accept & understand what is happening because you are a genius , bright & smart man !!!But you allowed someone to twist your super human genius mind ! Indeed, I am immensely disappointed !!

You are a very handsome “MAN .”

You made your life so damn complicated …

Never in my wildest dream this will happen to me in my lifetime … I will carry this in my grave…….

I hope you will not get upset bc I am just expressing my true feelings . I love ❤️ you so dearly … I just want the very best in life for you !!!

There’s no single day that I don’t cry my heart ❤️ & lungs 🫁 re: what happened to my life … I am very unfortunate …..

I really worked very hard in life … always having 2 jobs … 12 hours shift to provide my 2 boys with the best in life & what the hell I got ! I deserve better !!!God help me ……

I'm nonbinary transfemme. I've been out to my mom for almost a year now and I pass as a woman all the time now. She only deadnames me. She and my dad are literally the only people in my life that do that to me.

Besides the deadnaming, she doesn't say anything related to me being trans, but every few months I get a text dump like this. Given what she's told me, it seems she has made zero effort to understand trans issues and learn how to be supportive, and she believes I've been groomed (in my thirties lol).

I want to make an effort to better inform her. Are there any good infographics or articles out there that quickly and easily explain how to be supportive and the dangers of being unsupportive? I'd especially appreciate something that points out that trying to shove me back in the closet because she "loves" me is not really loving me. I could also really use something that explains why it's entirely inappropriate to tell me how hard it is for her and how I'm "complicating" my life.

Frankly, I've accepted that she will probably never accept who I am and I'll have to cut her out of my life (my brother has already done that and he's cishet... we have a lonnggg history with her). However, thus far, I've ignored her transphobic text dumps and phone calls and never made an effort to educate her. So, I thought I'd at least make a sincere attempt before I cut her off. I know it's probably futile, but I would appreciate the help. If anything, doing this will help me come to terms with the reality that she no longer deserves to be part of my life.

Edit: no one requested, but I spoilered the quote since it can be triggering