I have a friend that I absolutely adore. We have been close since before I transitioned. We lost touch for a while and in the interim I transitioned. She has been supportive and never deadnamed or misgendered me. However, sometimes she does and says things that make feel uncomfortable.

She tells me to keep my gender identity secret and not reveal it unless I have to. She has discouraged me from showing any interest in any guy or even accidently communicating that I might possibly be interested. She is worried about someone killing me once they find out I'm trans. Then she goes and tells family and friends before I meet them to make sure they are ok being around a "trans." Despite this, none of them have ever expressed any discomfort about my gender. I told her that I don't date gay men (because, you know, they are attracted to men) and she didn't understand. She straight up said to me, like it was incontrovertible fact, "If a guy has sex with you, he's gay."

I absolutely love this girl. We have tons of fun together. We seem very different in terms of our backgrounds yet we connect as friends in so many ways. We have been there for each other through some really shitty times. Still, her attitude makes me self-conscious about my gender identity. I've tried talking to her about it, but she just doesn't seem to get it. At this point I just try to avoid the issue as best as possible.

How would you handle this situation?