(If you're interesting in the concept of trans and what it means to me and how I've come to where I am today, please read on)

I'm 22 years old right now. I work from home, I have a stable girlfriend and great job (Full benefits :D)

I have also been feeling this whole transgender issue since about 15/16(i'm MtF) which is fairly normal (for transgendered people) the problems I've had is the same ones most people had,

1. I don't hate my body, I don't hate my dick, I don't hate anything (Ok, maybe the hair, ew.)

2. Am I really transgender?

and finally the big one i've been struggling with recently

1. I don't feel completely like a woman 100% of the time, sometimes I feel like a boy.

I'm going to give you my answers to these in order

1. You don't have to be self hating to be trans. If you feel like your inside doesn't match your outside and >you have the will to change it, that is enough.

Some people think of their body as a something not to be damaged, no tattoos(because who knows how it will look when you're 50), no piercing(or very few) etc etc.

I however believe that your body is just a work of art. It is your home, you should style and decorate your home how you like it. For me this means body hair removal, make up, wigs depending on the day, and for some people it could mean SRS. Bottom line and golden rule I stick by: If it makes you happy, and causes no undue harm to you or the people you care about, then go for it.

Obviously some of this can be a serious decision but at the end of the day, its your body and your life, and selfishly, your happiness should come above, but not at the expense, of others.

1. I've been reading r/asktransgender for awhile now, and my thoughts are this: If you're questioning, and you've been questioning awhile, you probably are, no one can tell you, they can just share their experience and you can sit on here for years waiting for someones story that is just like yours in order to validate yourself. But why? you only have one life to live, so get to it. No time to waste.

I will tell my story briefly, 10/11, always used to dress in moms clothing 13/14 dreamed about being a girl 15/16 wrote a note outlining reasons that I wanted to be a girl (parents found it but I brushed it off and hid it) 17-21 denial, regression, thoughts about transition, rinse and repeat until 22 where I've started transition, which brings me to my 3rd point.

1. I don't feel 100% female all the time, and sure I'd like a vag, but i'm probably not going to go through SRS, because I don't like the results people are gettings and its expensive and time consuming.

If I had to put a number on it, i'm about 70�male 30% male, maybe a little more male then that. But thats ok, that doesn't make me not trans. it makes me who I am.

And this is what i'm doing about it: I'm starting transition, I'm doing things to make my body into my home where I feel comfortable.

For some people this would mean SRS, Full time, etc, for me it doesn't, and i've started questioning the whole gender binary thing in a serious way.

I'm going to be both, boy and girl, and I'm going to do what makes me happy.

What I want to do is get most body hair removed, lighten the beard a lot, remove all other body hair, and start hormones. I'm not going to stick to a gender binary, I'm going to be in-between where I feel myself.

I'm going to have tits, and curves and semi long hair(to my chin). But my goal is to be able to toe the line of androgyny, somedays on the female side, some days on the male side. I realize this is difficult and I may not reach this goal, but its who I am, and I'm fighting for it.

If you've gotten this far in my post my words of advice to are this:

Be who you want to be, please, for yourself. Don't let someone stop you. Think it through, be honest with yourself, and just go for it. No one is holding you back except for yourself.

Thanks for reading my rambling thoughts, any questions, comments or concerns are appreciated.