I suppose I should explain this better.

I'm a teenager that recently found out that I was trans, and after the whole gender hell journey, I've mostly spent my time soaking up information relating to trans people as a whole. Partly because I'm a sponge for knowledge, but also because I'm new to being trans, haha.

There's one gap I haven't been able to find a good answer for, however, and it's mostly pertaining to sexual orientation and how it intersects with the coming into one's gender identity. I don't want to conflate the two as they're two separate things, but as one does evolve in the gender identity aspect, their relationship to their orientation can become clearer as far as I've seen. Being polysexual has slowly become more and more clear to me, for example, as I understood my relationship to gender as a whole.

So, my question is mostly, how does one handle navigating spaces such as "gay male spaces" despite being a transfem person who's into men, but not out yet? Does your relationship to your orientation change outwardly as your gender identity does inward, in such cases? How'd you handle any sort of non-platonic relationship? And lastly, how should one go about getting into all sorts of relationships, with the knowledge that your gender identity is probably not known or clear to the other person?

There's probably posts about this somewhere, but so far in my soaking up of information, I haven't seen this specific question answered, although I have seen it brought up in passing. I suppose the context here is that I'm a teenager who's still in high school, so not much can be done in the ways of coming out completely. Please tell me if I've got something wrong here though, I'm always looking to improve.

Thanks!