Disclaimer: sorry for formatting, I'm on mobile, also this is very chaotic because I'm still processing all of this.

Backstory: So about 2 and a half years ago, I moved from a small town in Missouri to Seattle. Since then I have come out as trans an have been on HRT for a little over 4 months now. My mother and stepfather live in Missouri, as well as my stepsister who is expecting a baby in the next few weeks.

My mom offered to pay for a plane ticket to flight out to visit them as my xmas/bday gift......but there was a condition that there be no political or religious arguments while I'm there because she doesn't want to feel "attacked" in her own home. My entire family in the South are far right republicans and christian, except for my stepsister.

So first off, I think it's super weird to even bring up a condition like that, but the main thing that concerns me is that, if someone does or says anything that offends me, I'm not going to feel like I can defend myself, because that would just cause an argument. And the more I think about it, my mom claims that she's supportive of my transition, but it feels more like...indifference.....any time the subject comes up she just says "whatever makes you happy", but never really tries to engage in any real conversation about it. And I just keep thinking, "Indifference is not support"... And also, I'm extremely nervous about just being in that part of the country with the political climate how it is. I grew up in the South, and I remember seeing news stories about horrible things done to lgbtq community. I'm absolutely terrified of being beaten or drug behind a truck down a dirt road or some other terrible shit happening. Or like even being yelled at, I don't feel like anyone would stand up for me. And the more I think about it, the only person I want to really visit, is my stepsister and my new niece, but at the same time she will have just had a baby by the time I visit and I understand how tiring and choatic a new baby can be, and I wouldn't want to intrude during a time like that....

.....I genuinely don't know what to do...how do I explain all of this to my mom without starting an argument? How do I politely decline visiting my family?