Hello. I was hoping to receive some advice.

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Earlier, I accidentally offended a dear friend of mine by making a distinction between women and mtf.
The context is that she was asking for my opinion for some clothes she was planning to buy. As a result, she was jokingly calling me gay for giving her detailed answers. In an attempt to refute that, I replied that I have only slept with women and mtf, which was a big mistake.

I'm actually ashamed I didn't immediately realize what I had said was wrong and hurtful. She informed me right afterwards and I apologized afterwards upon understanding what I had said. I then clarified I do see her as a woman. And I genuinely do. I reassure her that she's beautiful a few times every week.

I also throughly support her to the best I can. I actually pay for her estrogen and spiro these days since her new supplier is in New Zealand and apparently doesn't like UK debit cards and I've paid for a lot of things for her. It's a bit of a messy relationship.

Still, the fact remains that I was accidentally transphobic which caused her to end our conversation early and go to bed (she's about 8 hours ahead of me since I live on the West Coast whereas she lives in the UK).

I was reading though this this particular topic and am hoping I didn't make it all about me in my apology. All I do know is that I've genuinely hurt her and I don't know to make things up to her. Going overboard on the apology would make it sound insincere, right?

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Sorry for the incoherent ramble. Let me try to sum it up.

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tl;dr - was accidentally transphobic by making a distinction between women and mtf. I've already apologized after she pointed this out to me, but what else can I do? Or should I do anything else?