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Lots of questions on family relations... also featuring special guest star fertility!
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First of all, sorry about any errors or anything of the like. I'm writing this while anxious at nearly 3 AM on mobile.

Ok, so I've finally gotten my therapist's letter, my bloodwork is done and all I have left is one final meeting with my endocrologist for the prescription. Buuuut now my parents are worried about my fertility. Despite the fact that I've made it very clear-even before coming out- that if I ever had kids I would adopt. And now that I've gotten all my ducks in a row regarding my trans status there's no way in hell I'd be on the giving end of sperm anyways. What I want to know is, how do I explain to my parents why my soon to be infertility does not matter? They know about banking but that is of course expensive and not something I want to do anyways.

As for the family part this might just be me venting but I'm very tired of being told one thing and then the exact opposite just days or hours apart. Like for a while my parents were hardcore pushing for my letter and HRT! But now it's cold feet and, "oh we're not sure if you'll be Trans in 4 years." But then the next day they'll be calling me by Ellie and using she/her????? It's just so confusing. They seem to bounce between both extremes.

Then my younger brother just refuses to do anything. I've offered to let him use they/them on. I've offered to let him call me El instead of Ellie. Everytime he says, "yeah yeah of course!" Then he avoids names and pronouns for a day or so but then it's back to square one. He'll be in a conversation with my grandma who says Ellie and he'll deadname me. It's infuriating. I've come out to our shared online friends who I expected the worst from (pleasantly surprised there!) just so he wouldn't have to 'switch' what he called me, which was the excuse he had been using. I want to know why my parents change their minds sooo much, since I don't get it. I also wanna know what the hell I can do to get my brother to understand short of pulling a Freaky Friday swap.

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