The therapist was a bit older and seemed to be well meaning and non-judgmental but I came away feeling super weird. I mentioned on my intake that I was bisexual and questioning my gender, but after about 40 minutes of sort of explaining my evolution over time, her response seemed to be, "What are you questioning, if you're gay? Your wife knows you watch porn? she's okay with it? She's probably just saying she's okay with it. It sounds like porn is a big problem for you and is probably hurting your marriage because it idealizes sex." I literally only said I watched it and described how the way I view it has changed over the course of like 20 years, not that I like edge and watch Brazilian cake fart videos all day every day or something.

Has anyone else had an experience like that? I feel like I tell myself all the time, "this is just a kink, porn must have broken your brain or something, this isn't real." To basically hear someone else say it was a huge disappointment. Maybe I am just a porn addict?

ETA: I dunno, it was really F'in hard to say some of those things out loud to someone for the first time and i feel like we breezed right past it to "are you afraid you're gay? porn is bad"