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So last night I was just hanging out with friends And our love life’s came into the conversation, and I learned that I was a bottom for a while now and the question came up what position is are favorite, and I just said that I’m good with anything as long as it makes me feel like a woman me jokingly saying and I was told that sounded kinda like a fetish and now I’m all over the place I mean I’m a very sexual person and I do like imagining myself as a woman during sex and I do feel sexy or what ever when I’m just in my underwear as I wear a sports bra and panties I like being a woman but I also like my more sexual side and now have the thought stuck in my head that all of this is some weird kink what do y’all think
Edit: should have brought this up I don’t have much bottom dysphoria and me and my cis girlfriend still sometimes have penetrative sex sometimes I’m the one penetrating and other times I’m the one being penetrated so dose that mean I’m still a woman if I don’t mind using my penis
You like feeling like a woman during sex? During the one thing where our gender/sex is literally doing the thing it's designed to do so that humans can reproduce? The one moment in our lives where our gender/sex is actually vitally important to what we are doing?
How fetishistic, I say sarcastically.
Shocking revelation but cisgender women, who are comfortable being women, typically imagine themselves in sexual situations as, *gasp*, women.
No you don't have a fetish, you just like feeling like yourself during your most intimate and vulnerable moments. Don't let them get to you.
It took me 10 years of transition, 5 surgeries, and probably 10k in expenses to finally have a functioning vagina.
Before that I was 16-26 years old and on the highest available dose of estrogen so I had to get off somehow. I would begrudgingly use it as a means to an end to relieve my sex drive, and I used it on my female partners because they liked it.
That doesn't mean I was okay with having a penis. It's not like you just go to the vagina store and get swapped out, my friend. You have drains filling with blood coming out of you, you spend the entire night before surgery shitting until it runs clear to prevent rectal injury, you have a catheter in for two weeks and have to take a month off of work. It was the hardest thing I have ever been through and not everyone feels like it is worth the cost.
Don't be such a transphobe. It doesn't make sense.
Never expect cisgender people to understand what you're going through and certainly don't go to them for advice on your transition. They will never understand because it's impossible to know what it feels like until you experience it.
Take everything cis people say about trans people with a grain of salt and if anything is really really bothering you seek out other trans people or a therapist certified in trans issues.
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Why don't you run along to the myriad of cisgender spaces you get in this website and leave supporting a trans woman through her struggles to the people who have actually lived it