Hi! My brother has been questioning his gender identity for years now. I have been supportive for a long time but my first reaction was not the best because frankly I didn’t have the tools. My intention was always to be supportive but my words were not the best. I learned in the meantime. He has been very lonely over the years and I tried to help in many ways, but I think I failed. I deeply care about him and generally just feel powerless. The bad handling of his identity questioning and mostly (he told me) the fact that we both experienced psychological abuse growing up have made us not very close. We survived using different strategies. The distance between us hurts me. I’m sure it hurts him as well. I have shared this with my therapist and close friends as well as the reasons behind it. Have I violated his privacy by revealing his questioning? How can I talk about my experience and still protect the privacy of the trans person? None of the people I’ve told know him personally (we live in different cities and are not the same age). If I did act wrong, and I think I did, should I confess and apologise or not tell him about this? I’d appreciate your advice. I keep making mistakes