Hi everyone,

I'm a 27 straight cis male.

First I want to clarify I have absolutely no desire to be mean to anyone, so if I say something disrespectful please comment about it.

I have a lot of contact with LGBTQ people in my social and romantic life (my present gf being bi and queer, for instance). Due to that, I had some previous experiences with trans women. Many people, sadly, including gay or bi friends (but mainly straight people), told me that's "kind of bi" or said some offensive shit about what I would do with the genitals of the person I'm dating — I already saw that the consensus here is that those statements are transphobic, which I agree with.

Anyways, those things made me confused about my sexuality at first, but after reflecting a lot (and testing if I could be aroused by men, which didn't happen) I came to the obvious conclusion that, well, I'm straight and there is no issue with all of that. I would definitely interact sexually or romantically with a trans woman the same way I do with a cis... As it should be, I guess.

The issue that bothers me is that, well, after having sex with some of trans women who didn't show genital dysphoria... I realized that I really liked interacting with their penises. I found it to be extremely attractive, nice to feel, etc. It is for sure a part of their body that aroused me, maybe even more than the other genital. The same first genital doesn't have the same effect on my attraction if it belongs to a man, as I was sadly often questioned.

I'm well aware that many, if not most, trans women, though, are not fine using that part of their bodies for sex or even showing them, and that is something I wouldn't ever question from someone if they made that clear, nor it would be a "requirement" for me to have a relationship or only sex with said person.

I would also never approach a trans woman because of that, but rather because I find her as a whole person attractive and/or interesting. Still, when it comes only to sex, that is a part that is very likely to arouse me very much if she wants to use it.

After reading a lot of criticism about men being attracted to that specific part, I thought about questioning in this sub if my perception might be offensive to the trans community, even considering that, when it comes to practical terms, that would be totally secondary to me, just like any other physical trait.