Hey guys I will try to keep this short. This is my first post in here and I recognize that a lot of people get some great insights. So, here we go.

Back in February, I was in New York City and met a good looking guy, he seemed pretty smart and attentive. I think that in personality we were not thaaat compatible, sometimes he was entitled and arrogant, but I saw these traits through compassion.

However, we had some differences and I stopped talking to him five weeks ago. This week we started talking again and we came clean about the guys that we saw during those five weeks, he mentioned that he downloaded Grindr and that he met a guy and fucked him, which is ok, when we were in pause. Something just didn’t click in my mind. We met through Facebook dating when I was in New York and he mentioned that he was not into casual sex, that he was a strict monogamous guy and that he hadn’t used grinder for a couple of years, so when he said that he met this guy through the app was strange in a way. (I was expecting bumble, tinder, Facebook, etc)

Furthermore, what didn’t resonate is that He mentioned that he downloaded it only for gratification and a boost of self-esteem, something was just not right I could feel it, it was my intuition. So yesterday I was with a friend and he said “why don’t you look in the explore section to see if he still has the app?” I just had the feeling he was on it. So I opened the app, changed the location and BINGO, he was there with this text on his profile “Charismatic Introvert. I'm more interested in you than your online persona. Reasonable, Rational, Intelligent: All of which is irrelevant when it's a bubble butt .. Drug and disease free, and I'd like to keep it that way.” Status: single. Looking for friends, dates, relationship.

I felt very sad. I confronted him and he said that i was not giving enough reasons for him to delete it. That he never mentioned he deleted the app ( he did) and he told me he had it but didn’t use it ( his last online stats was two hours before the confrontation).

He told me I was delusional, that I was pathetic and that I was misinterpreting all what he said. I felt very offended, because I wanted to see if he would recognize it and maybe we could work through it, but he was just very aggressive and defensive.

A couple of days ago, We were even discussing living together and creating something worthwhile in the future. But now I feel everything is shattered and I feel pretty bad. Thoughts? Thanks for reading.