This is just something about me I noticed actively recurring. Since I learned about what dating is and that people are expected to do so at some point in their life. It’s just some unspoken rule of society pretty much, and I get that.

Though for me, I never really got into the dating scene. Never tried, never felt like it, never actively pursued it. It’s just me, and I never felt any FOMO (fear of missing out) feelings about it.

It’s only recently I realized that I’m on some spectrum of the ace scale, specifically grey ace. I like sex as much as the next guy does, though I don’t frequent it as much since my explorative college days. As reference, that was only 8 years ago, so not too long ago. I also like to look at guys and appreciate, for me, well formed hairless legs and them being taller than me. So I do get some sexual excitement in looking at guys bodies.

But as to wanting to date people or be in a traditional “loving relationship”, it’s never crossed my mind. Though I do have good friendships with two people I met in college during my sexual exploration to which I still have sex with.

And honestly, they’re really the only two guys I have sex with now apart from the odd third person they might invite. Yet outside of that, we are just very good friends; and I’m more than happy with that.

In which case being identified as a grey ace makes it easy to do without any mess since one guy loves to mess around with others. Though I’m one of the few he’s actually friends with, so the sex is an extension of our friendship. The other is in an open relationship with his boyfriend, with me being acknowledged as the non-problematic side piece and, again, an extension of our friendship that started before they became boyfriends.

Long story short (bit late for that), I learned that I’m most likely a grey ace and have been more than fine with that the entirety of my life. I also learned that my sexual encounters extends only to those I trust as I don’t find much fun in casual hookups anymore. And at this point in my life, it’s the two I mentioned just now. And even then, it’s rather infrequent apart from the rare moments my friends coined “my heat”.

This was just a bit of self-discovery i came across and wanted to share with you guys.