I am honestly curious because I am sometimes embarrassed to tell people (gay and straight) how old my friends are.

I am currently 21 and going on 22 in May but that’s quite young for the guys I hangout with.

Not saying any names but I’ll one is 27 (who I talk to most) and two others are 31 and 41.

They are fine guys but I sometimes don’t understand why they act very “mature” in some ways and “immature” in other ways.

The 27 year old one is the most mature (even more than me) in terms of his life. He paints houses as well as is the most prude of all of them (he is also conservative and voted for trump which doesn’t really bother me too much but many other people find him annoying how much he talks about him). He is very interested in the 41 year old guy who is not interested in him as much. One is very monogamous and the other is a “couples who play together, stay together” so it just doesn’t work. The 41 year old one is also the most “popular” in the scene we are in and sometimes refers to me as a “protogay” because he had one when I was his age that showed him the gay scene and helped him through gay men which is understandable. He doesn’t ask for sex so it’s not really grooming but I need to explain this thoroughly to people. My other friend who is 31 is just fun but kinda flaky and doesn’t like confrontation. We are kinda drifting but it is what it is. I had another friend his age but he was a cunt so that’s kinda why we aren’t as close because they were both friends longer.

I used to go out with these guys during the pandemic and drink last year. It was nice but I’m thinking of finding new people because they seem to invite me less and tell me things like “you’re so young” and “ you need to find yourself”.

While I understand I need to be “21” I am going to college and working in a field I like. I don’t understand what they mean and kinda just feel like I’m either not getting the vibe or just asking to be invited now. It’s changed over the winter is what happened.

Should I just make new friends or explore new people? Everyone is kinda flaky and annoying me lately.