Today one of my cousins shared a post on facebook that said that we shouldn't allow the indoctrination of children in schools about LGBT issues and gay people shouldn't be allow to marry and adopt kids because that hurts family values. I moved to the US about 7 years ago and I've come out to all my friends here and all my immediate family. To read something like that from a cousin I loved growing up made me tear up and as much I didn't want to break that relationship I couldn't just allow that to be posted and shared. I messaged my mom, who didn't react well when I first came out but has gotten around it, that I was going to make a comment on the post knowing that since she's back home it could hinder her relationship with her siblings since everyone was going to find out about me. My mom told to go get her which shook all the fear out of me, I still can't believe that she has come such a long way.

So I replied to the post stating several reasons why it was wrong and that by saying such things she was saying that I her cousin was worth less and that I didn't deserve the same rights as everyone else. My cousin messaged me saying that she was not homophobic, she was sorry if she offended me and that she wanted to explain her point. At this point, I had to decide if to reply or just cut her out of my life. I decided that I was too old to keep cutting people out and felt like I was finally ready to have a mature conversation about it. So we had a conversation where she put as an example gay parents rejecting heterosexual children and that the education that we are trying to promote for children has gotten out of hand and should be more balanced. I explained how gay parents most likely want their children to be straight so they don't suffer but they go through so much to get a child that they would just not reject any child, it just doesn't make sense. That's just the reality and anything beyond that is extremely rare. She told me that she just wanted to say that she was not homophobic but that under my concept I might not believe her. That she loved me infinitely and that my value came from gd. I told her that as with racism, it's not enough to just not be homophobic that she needs to be anti-homophobic. And then she said one would have to explore the entire concept of anti-homophobia since it wasn't very clear to her and the conversation moved on into catching up.

I don't know if it actually gave her a perspective. I don't know if I'll ever have the same relationship with her. I don't know if I'll be able to look her in the eye next time I see her without showing that I'm afraid of her. But this is something I've never done before and I could use some input into how other people (I'm mid-twenties) see it. Or any advice really. What are you supposed to do next?

TLDR: Cousin posted something homophobic on facebook, I had a conversation with her where I told her I was gay and why she was wrong. She didn't exactly change her mind but didn't disregard me completely either. I don't know what will happen next or how to proceed from here.