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To masculine men from a non-masculine man: Is there something wrong with me?
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Please note that I'm not trying to sound whiny, nor am I expecting people to feel sorry for me. Pity is not what I want, just opinions

It seems like there is an overwhelming dislike/disdain for non-masculine men, effeminate men, men who are not bro's, etc. Even among the gay community. Why is that? I genuinely want to know. I ask because I am one myself, and hearing a lot of the things said about people like me just makes me even more depressed and self-hating than I already am. On this very board, we have been accused of trying to take the gay "label" away from masc/straight-acting gays. Where does all this come from?

Please be straightforward, but also please don't be a dick. Thanks

EDIT: Thank you for the answers everybody. You have all been super positive. You've made a not-terribly-masculine autistic gay guy feel a lot better about himself

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My opinion: i personally fall smack dab in between a masc and fem personally and I generally prefer a man who is the same or more masculine than I am; Probably because they got what I lack and I see that as attractive. I don’t really hate Fems, (but I do find the ones who are local to me rather annoying, but they don’t determine my overall opinion) when I meet fem guys I don’t find their personalities attractive in a sexual or romantic way, but I find them to be more fitting as friends due to our closeness to our feminine side. Now, I have met men who are more masc and seem to be sexually frustrated due to their lack to attract other masculine men; so maybe they are just taking out their frustration on the fems who so happen to show up in their dms. So I don’t think that there something wrong with you, it might just be the fact that some men don’t have the ability to be “manly” enough to attract their type. -To add, there could be many other factors to consider when you think about people disliking others; maybe a lack in connection or a prejudice mind set adapted from their childhood. But you shouldn’t beat yourself up about it, you are who you are and that makes you special. And some men can’t appreciate that, then screw them. ☕️🐸

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