I recently moved to Seattle in April and I'm having a very hard time making friends. Everyone is in their own circles and they don't seem at all welcoming. They're polite enough, though. I'll try to make an opener and compliment their shirt or something, and they'll reply with "Thanks!" and then turn to talk to their friends. *cough*

It doesn't help that I really don't look like a lot of people around here. A lot of the gay men are really trendy with their ripped clothing, colorful and metro attire, full/partial beards. I'm just a simple guy from the suburbs that wears a T-shirt and jeans with the occasional collar polo, and wearing anything else just isn't my style. One of my friends back home told me maybe the reason was because I look like a "straight ally" instead of a gay guy. Great.

There was one time that I did get "gayed out" and wore a tight shirt, colorful attire, and put stickers on my face, and it was semi-successful, but that just isn't me! I don't want to feel like I have to be someone I'm not to make friends/get dates with other guys.

Anyone experience the Seattle Freeze and know how to beat it? I really don't want to have to use dating apps and Grindr to make friends.