I don't know if this is the case anywhere else but in the UK, it's not just on grindr but it's on actual dating apps too. This even happens in bars too.

Most guys seem to go for masculine men. I keep seeing "straight acting" or "masc for masc". People will not talk to me because I don't seem masculine. I get blocked instantly even though I think I'm pretty attractive because I have people say this to me often but because I'm young looking and not masculine looking I get instantly blocked. I didn't wanna write that last bit in case I came off as stuck up but the point I'm making is while I'm attractive, people don't find you attractive if you're not acting or dressing a certain way or if you're just young looking.

For context, I don't think I'm neither feminine or masculine, people just say I'm nice. So I guess somewhere in between.

At the same time I understand that a lot of us if not most are attracted to masculine men but it's weird to me that people exclusively are only into that and will reject anyone who aren't masculine. I thought gay men tend to be more feminine so this feels weird to me. It's intimidating as well I think and I'm not sure just how genuinely masculine they claim to be or if it's an act to try and fit in or attract others.

I just feel like an outcast with my own community.