For context, i have never been with a man. I use this reddit account solely for exploring that side of my sexuality.

That said, i am coming to a point where i think i want to finally explore this side of myself. The two big things i want though:

1) to remain dl, or at least not publically advertise my interests to everyone in my personal life.

2) to not just hook up. I ideally want a guy who i could actually vibe and be friends with.

Ive seen people comment that staying dl is a sign of internalized homephobia, and is homophobic. However, this is my personal preference. I want the people in my life to see and think of me as they always have, and to keep this private. My sexual exploits with women are things i also tend to keep totally private and i want this to be the same.

I imagine using tinder and just being honest and only sharing my pic on a private line of communication might be my best bet. But other suggestions are welcome.