burner account here, I've been recently diving into the wonders of butt stuff by myself, although mostly just with my fingers, and I've been really interested in putting stuff up in there since my fingers just haven't been cutting it (don't get me wrong, it does feel good), but my long distance said he wants to stretch me up for our first time instead of an object (have in mind we're years away from actually meeting up). I've read online but got mixed results on whether or not your hole unstretches after a while, and I don't wanna just disregard how he feels and just shove something in there. is it true that your ass unstretches and goes back to normal if you haven't done it in a while or does it permanently alter your ass? thanks in advance!!!

tl;dr: wanna try putting stuff up my butt but my long distance boyfriend wants to stretch me up instead of an object, will my ass unstretch if I just don't do it for a while?