Hey everyone, so i am a gay adult 30, and on instagram i follow a bunch of accounts of people, well…tbh 100% of the people i follow on instagram i dont know in real life at all, i dont have many friends in real life mostly by choice, i live in a european country, small town i personally would rather not live in, its just not for me to put it nicely, ive dealt with homophobia before in school here cause of the conservative mindset etc, so yeh…ok negativity out the way, ahah, my instagram is my window out of it, mostly i will like/heart other peoples stories if its like travels, maybe art related whatever, and some mine, and its a whole different world, i follow and am followed by a bunch of gay men, some in couples, many singles, its different to my physical reality, and its cool i guess.

So recently this guy i am following, replied to one of my stories, liked some of my photos , mine his, and we have just started chatting in a sorta playful flirty way, nothing nsfw at all, its just regular flirty jokes whilst still a pretty nice conversation, 🙂 the same id think regular people start to talking, and he recently asked where i live, which i understand cause , he might wanna meet up, from his profile i know he is in france , a different European country my fear is, well, if i tell him, he will just ghost or be like “ah different country, shame” and that be it, i also dont really wanna directly give out my location to a stranger however simply giving the country shouldnt be an issue right? I defo dont wanna seem sus by not wanting to answer, like a bit of mystery is good is the saying but i do wanna make friends and who knows, that is part of why i even joined instagram after all these years. I really need some advice please buddies 🙂 i once got messaged by a handsome guy on insta, i was following, he asked where i lived, once i told him he was like “ah, i live in poland” then ghosted me, i feel like, fk they liked how i looked in photos and maybe my vibe but different country automatically meant, bye. Now id be super happy just to have the option to talk sometimes with other gay men like these and maybe in future meet, but i also realistically think, if they are looking for someone romantically, me being in a different country is an instant closed door.

I dunno, need advice hahah , anyways hope ur all good