I’m turning 36 in a few months, and to be honest, I’m feeling pretty hopeless about my love life. Over the last few years, I’ve only been on a handful of dates, and meeting new guys—or even just asking someone out—has always been a challenge for me.

I keep trying to tell myself there’s still time to meet someone, but it’s hard to hold on to that hope. My biggest fear is growing old and dying alone. I really struggle with online dating, too—I never know what to say, conversations fizzle out, or I just don’t get a response back.

What I want more than anything is to be in a long-term relationship because I know I’d be a loyal, devoted, and loving partner. But right now, I’m stuck and don’t know what to do. Should I consider lowering my standards when it comes to physical attraction? I admit it’s something I put a lot of weight on when I’m interested in someone.

Any advice or encouraging words would mean so much because I feel like I’m running out of hope. Thanks for reading.