so my young lover (21) wants to go with me (68) to a gay sauna. I asked him what he wanted to do there and he said he just wanted the two of us to play together. i'm a little confused because we can do that (and do) anytime anywhere. But I tend to indulge him and I'm willing to try anything once. My question is what's the likelihood that other people will just leave us alone while we do our own thing? I'm not too worried about being hit on, but he's a cutie and a little on the timid side. i'm thinking he's just being voyeuristic and I'm sure that he wouldn't play with somebody else in front of me. Is there a polite way to decline engagement from others? Or does everyone assume because you're in a Public spot you're open to playing with others? are we inviting trouble by going to a place like this?