I realized that I was never asked out by any gay guy or even hit on by one. I take care of myself considerably but it's no use. Women often would just ask me out or make it very clear they like me. I went to gay clubs with friends and only really my white or Latin friends got action, on the opposite scale if I go to straight clubs, I'm often the one doing better in my friend group.

I feel for women it's a straight forward objective set of features they find attractive among men ( jawline, tall etc) while for gay men there's various types. More often or not if your not white you can have all associated attractive features but still be ignored, while for women there will at least be a substantial who will look pass your race and just see your facial features. Anyone eles have similar experiences?