I've had a crush on this guy; he's such a gentleman, but his career gets in the way of us spending any time together.

I live in New Jersey.

Originally, I was going to fly to 3 cities: Las Vegas, Jacksonville, then Pensacola, to hang out with my boyfriend & 2 friends of mine; all 3 didn't respond when I asked if they wanted me to fly there to visit (but my boyfriend in LV has been waiting for me to move for 2 years, refuses to help me financially, cheats on me constantly & then when I finally am prepared to visit him next month, he doesn't say anything? Seriously?) So I decided to pursue this 4th guy, let's call him "Rick".

Since those other plans fell through, I wanted to fly to Los Angeles for Christmas Break to hang out with Rick, but he said he's way too busy (and I'm polyamorous with 4 boyfriends & one of my boyfriends--in LV--is the same way, but #2 is a narcissist and Rick in LA (who's none of the 3 guys I spoke about) is such a sweetheart and we have a lot in common.

Rick is humble, has a great family, loves both his parents (that's a huge factor for me), he's got a sense of humor (another attractive trait for me). The only problem is, he said he has a busy schedule and would have no time to hang out with me if I flew to LA.

So what's the best approach to navigate his busy schedule if I go to LA for Christmas Break like I'm planning? I'm feeling so sad from cancelling the other 3 travel plans I had. Maybe it's a sign - even if me and a guy I'm into have things in common, the one for me probably is me. My goals are getting married and raising a biological family with my special someone (whoever that is, my poly boyfriends or not), and I've been trying to also cope with the fact that men are just not the classy and graceful people I thought they were.

I started dating men at 15 years old because every woman in my graduating class rejected me (almost all of them had boyfriends) and I told myself, "Go where you're wanted. If women don't want you, the best solution is to date a man." 13 years later, I'm feeling the same way about men (and I'm pansexual on top of that), and have resentment and anger towards my exes, who were either abusive (some of my exes stalked me after I dumped them), cheaters, jealous, didn't want to settle down yet, or all 4. I just hate being taken for granted by friends, exes, one of my current boyfriends. It's like the manipulation game in life, never ends.