I had a couple of sessions with a new therapist. He is in his late 30s, fit body and in the NY gay scene (which is helpful to me personally because I felt he was going to be more aligned to what I'm going through vs someone much older and in a stable/monogamous relationship who may not 'get' the culture now).

Good points:

1. We agreed I should basically go out more and build up social connections in person. He said keep 1 app at most for hookups etc but maximum time should be spent outside. I am more than happy to do this and he appreciated my willingness to try things. He did say parties (not sex parties) or bars were the way to go.
2. Since I've had the 'you may be intimidating' comment before in therapy, as he has some physical features similar to me, I wondered if he experiences some of the same things I do (so far we have not explored this).

Concerns:

1. He seems to have a 'hazed' view on relationships and almost dismisses/gets annoyed everytime I bring up this topic (so much so that he originally was going to refer me to someone else, until I swung the conversation to social life). Or maybe that is how relationships are now, and I could learn the reality, and see if I even want to participate in this circus?
2. He was commenting on how guys in trauma are in throuples, how he deals with so many people who find a bf and are bored in 3 months and complain to him, and started 'projecting'. I'm sure he deals with these situations, but I don't think I need to know? Often he says 'taking my therapist hat off' in the session and speaks to me more like a friend - which is fine - but then I'm a bit confused what I'm supposed to say.

I went in to try and get a perspective of what I can actually do about being chronically single and he basically said there is no answer (which I get). I reached out to him because in his profile it specifically said he pushes back (which I like) and provides solutions (which I find more helpful because I don't think something is 'wrong' with me thats causing this) vs 'talk / feelings / history therapy'.

At the end of session 2, he agreed I 'should' be at least getting FWB's or guys returning for a repeat sexually, but I didn't hear any solutions. Maybe that is session 3. I did say I understand it is hard for him because he only hears my side of things, but I am not really hearing solutions I can act on (beyond going out which I am doing). In fairness, I'm also not really sure what else he can suggest either.

Keep going or ditch? If keep, any tips on how to pivot the conversation so its productive?