I'm 28. This guy I'm into lives in Nevada (Vegas specifically). He's 36. I live in New Jersey currently. I'm already trying to visit him in December for Christmas Break, while figuring out my moving arrangements. Then, last night, he says he's moving in March (and his rent at his current home is $2150 and it's a 3 bedroom - I'm glad I work in insurance, otherwise there's no way I'd be paying that in a month). I was going to ask him if we can split the rent (when I move, of course) since in my job, it's normal to make (sometimes) $2k to $5k per policy.

So I was all prepared to start planning for my Vegas vacation for Christmas, and now his March move is making me furious. I was already planning to move to Vegas to live with him (that's why this Xmas vacation is so helpful, so I know what I'm getting into for my move), but now he's saying he wants to visit Texas, and I'm thinking: Well, if he's leaving Vegas, I should probably move in with a friend of mine in Vegas (who's always gone & travels overseas 7 days a week, anyway, so I'll be all alone watching his house, which is perfect).

So now I don't know who to live with. I like stability and being in one place forever. What I don't like is people who constantly travel and constantly move houses every single day like nomads. It's weird to me. I like structure, and living in one place provides me the same structure and stability that was instilled in me as a child.

So how can I bring all this up to both of them? It's got my mind in 6 different directions. I was going to uproot my life out of Jersey at the top of next year, only to find out he's moving again. Fuck my life.