Ok I'm just joking, it's not my true calling, but hear me out:

Questions:

1. Is power bottom considered a kink?
2. How hard is it to find a sub top, from your experience as a power bottom?
3. Is master/slave and dom/sub the same thing?
4. Where can I learn to be a better master/power bottom?

I texted this hot Turkish guy, a muscle bear, on Grindr. He's a vers, but he told me he wanted to be more passive tonight with sucking me. He then said that he wanted to try out his fantasy of being a slave. Me being a vers bottom, I was already excited that this muscle bear wanted me, a chubby bear, as he's literally my first muscle bear ever in over 10 years of my sex life (sad I know 🥲), but the prospect of getting to use him as I like excited me even more. So I agreed and asked him to come to my place.

On the way over, he started his role, calling me master in his text and I called him boy. When we met, I immediately used my firm voice instead of my friendly voice, despite doing the usual chatter of how are you, your name, bla3. I asked him what's his safe word, he was a bit confused what it is, so I told him it's the word he would use in case he wants to stop, so he just chose the word "safe".

Inside my place, he took off his shirt, bedazzling me with his muscled hairy body, and after I took a shower, we started a hot passionate kissing session on the sofa. I directed him to my nipples and asked him to suck it, and he obediently followed. But he was going on top of me and I felt like I was losing a bit of control as he was getting more active. So I directed him to my bed.

He took off his pants, and I could see his thick dick, I guess around 6.5" . We kissed, cuddled, and I directed him to my nipples again, and then to my dick. Boy, he sucked really good, no teeth at all, and me having just a tad small 4 inches dick, it was one of the best oral I've ever had. You would think people can suck a small dick without teeth easily, but not everybody I've met can do it as well as he did. I felt like I could cum if he just continued there forever. I facefucked him, slapped him a bit, and he surprised me with sucking my feet, but I've tried getting my feet sucked before and it felt good, so I pushed my feet into his mouth even more.

Seeing his big dick as he sucked me, I couldn't help but to let my bottom instinct kicked in and asked him to lie on the bed. I started to rode him, and I made sure to slap him to make him know who's actually in charge. It felt good, I've always liked riding dick after all, but he started to lose his slave role bit by bit. He started to move his hip more than I could ride him, and he chuckled and made a remark about how the slave is now fucking the master. So I tried to slap him to assert my dominance back, but he looked unpleased and tried to slap me back, to which I chuckled back and reminded him he was supposed to play the slave role, so he shouldn't be slapping me.

He ignored and then asked me to take off and put me into a doggy position, so I just followed. He started to pound me real good and it was pretty hard not to moan like I usually do. I managed to keep it inside of me and just breathed heavily, but I couldn't assert my dominance back. I even tried to slap him at the back, but he stopped my hand, so I didn't try anymore. His dick felt so good that as someone with a delayed ejaculation condition, I cummed not too long after. I told him I cummed, then he started to fuck me even harder until he cummed as well.

We went and took a shower together, and after that, I asked if it was good for him and if this was his first time playing master slave role. Apparently it wasn't, he usually plays master role, and he just wanted to try playing the slave role once, but he didn't like it. He also likes topping more, so he's actually a vers top. I thought it was funny and told him if he didn't like it, he should have used the safe word, but he didn't respond back, probably because of the language barrier as his English is not that good.

So, he found out he likes being a master/dom top more, and I found out that I actually like being a master/power bottom along with being a vanilla bottom. I definitely don't like being a slave/sub as when he tried to slap me, I immediately deflected. So I guess I have a kink now? Or is power bottom already too common that it's now considered vanilla? I also only like getting my feet sucked, but don't think I could suck anybody's feet unless I really like him. I'm wondering how hard it is to find a sub top, as I want to repeat that again.

All in all, I don't think the guy even knows what a proper master/dom top is, as he didn't even know about safe word. I myself am not that well versed in master/slave or dom/sub world (are they the same thing btw?), but I have always been a curious cat who takes knowledge of every kink bit by bit. I'm not sure where should I go to learn more about the art of power bottoming, so could any senior power bottom guide me pleaseeeeee 😝