So, I ghosted my bf (a 27yo influencer & millionaire from Nevada) this morning (10/4/2024), for 2 reasons:
1. He only loves me when I move on. So I decided to stay friends with him, and just let him gaslight the next woman, the way he gaslit me.

1. My new boyfriend (he's 20 & from Kansas) asked me out this morning. I obviously said yes - but I'm still fearful that the new bf will use me also, just like my exes did. I've overcome financial medical verbal physical abuse from my mom and family members, and DV from my mom, so I'm always suspicious of men's intentions with me and I'm always expecting them to throw me away. Men always say they love me, and then deceive me when I least expect it.

Bf I ghosted and I have dated long-distance for 1 year. I'm 28 and he's 27 - and I've dumped him 6 times now; this morning is separation #6. I tried confronting him 3 times, he didn't care. I ghosted him twice & all he did was play me again. So, I'm ghosting him for 2 months, until December 4th (my cousin's birthday, ironically).

Every time we get back together, bf I ghosted says he misses me & when I made him choose between his mistresses or me, he says he chose me (we all know how that turned out). I know it's a lie because a few weeks pass,, and he's back to his cheating ways - filming himself kissing and holding hands with women and posting it on TikTok, while I'm reading comments from strangers who compliment his "new girlfriend". I'm a pansexual man, who's been dating him for 1 year - he's clearly bi and closeted - he's refused multiple times to fly to New Jersey to spend time with me because he flies out his mistresses for exotic vacations to Africa, Hawaii, Australia and Asia. And when he's got no mistresses left, then I'm his first priority.

Bf I ghosted refuses to help me in any way (despite him knowing I left an abusive situation for him & to move to Las Vegas to be closer to him, and moved out of my verbally/physically abusive mom's house at 27yo because bf I ghosted refuses to visit me (to the point where we argued). Bf I ghosted inspired me to move in December 2023 & I've got my own apartment in NJ & torn between moving from New Jersey to Las Vegas with bf #1, or moving to Kansas with the new bf (I prefer the city & the West Coast, and I don't like small towns or the South - I lived down South for 7 years & hate it).

I've now lived on my own for 10 months. Bf I ghosted has never once helped me with anything (while helping his mistresses); I became independent, like bf told me to be, and did it all by myself, while my bf gaslit me (regarding his cheating) & victim shamed me about my financial situation, and tried to say I "should start by making better decisions" (about the financial abuse I'm currently enduring from my mom). I also lost friends since moving out last year. I've become much more ruthless and cut-throat since living on my own. Bf I ghosted will replace me if I don't let him control me (he isn't the only one who's treated me this way; my family views me the same way).

Bf I ghosted brought back my trust issues in men, after doing 4 years of introspection before meeting him - I did the work, and still fell for a sociopath's charm. Men are lovely until they date me.....

I've been deceived by other exes too - I dumped a 6 year ex I'd dated from 2014 until 2020, who played me for our entire 6 year relationship, and lived with his 19 year old mistress until she was 22 (I didn't know until she was forced out his apartment by the police in 2019). He cheated with 20 different people, men and women. And he posted revenge porn of me in 2016 - that revenge porn is how he outed me to my family. To this day, they victim shame me & assume I posted the revenge porn, so I quickly cut off my entire family, except my mom, because she's agreed to helping me financially until I'm able to be independent. 8 years later, I'm still low contact with my family (I already hated them before the victim shaming, but that was the final straw). That 6 year ex is in his 30s now, living with his new girlfriend in South Florida. I also forgot to mention that ex is gang-affiliated, and threatened to murder me 3 times and threatened to post more revenge porn of me, whenever I ignored him or whenever I dumped him. Bf I ghosted, the 6 year ex, and my Argentine ex - all 3 of them are Latin men; so, I'm very hesitant to date Latin men again. I need a man who values me & puts me first & tells me to my face that he's grateful and appreciative of me. Reassurance is important to me, given my history of being thrown away/manipulated by exes and family members.

I was also ghosted by a separate Argentine ex, 2 days before our 1 year anniversary (on 10/7/2022), and I was going to propose to the Argentine ex for our anniversary (In fact, I'm thinking of dating him again. We spoke a few months after he ghosted me & the Argentine ex said he has depression, which is why he ghosted me). I miss him and frequently wonder what he's up to. If my ex from Buenos Aires has moved on, I'll be heartbroken - he's the only man who put me first and was the first man who loved and accepted me for who I am. He said he loved that I'm "different", and he still means so much to me.

Fast forward, and I fell in love with my current bf (the one I ghosted), in May 2023. We were friends for 1 year before we ever dated. My only "one who got away" was my Argentine ex-boyfriend (who was always nice to me and truly did love me, but I got fed up after he ghosted me, 2 days before I was going to ask him to marry me).

I'm glad I'm a survivor and overcame the abuse from my family and former friends, and the mental/sexual exploitation from my exes, this bf included. Hopefully, this new bf of mine can teach me that there are good men out there. New bf is 20yo and from Kansas; maybe I'll move to KS for him, and we could maybe move to Los Angeles together, if it works out. But given the emotional scars I've got from my exes, he'll have to show me he knows how to put me first.

Bf I ghosted treats me like his slave. My new bf - hopefully - is Mr. Right.