Im a young man (24) living with my slightly older bf (30) of 2 and a half years. However, for a while, I have been feeling things are off. We never spend any meaningful time together at home anymore. He has no job and has no ambition or drive. From our first times together, I have done as much as I can to help him. However, he does not help himself.

I truly deeply love this man alot however I feel that love becoming lesser with every wasted day. I try to help get out of bed, but there is always a reason gaming is better.

Apart from my love of him there are two other reasons I can not leave. One and the biggest is his love of me. I know he truly loves me and can not live without me. He has expressed on many occasions as he suffers from suicidal feelings. He is an amazing person but only cares for me and video games. I don't want him to get hert if I do leave him ever. We have talked about our futures, and at the beginning, they were beautiful aspirations, but as time dragged and nothing changed, they are becoming more dreams. Things I wished were true, but I know he can not do it. He is always making sure I'm okay and doing his best for me. Never has anyone had someone as devoted as he is to me. I used to think it was mutual, but I've been re assessing.

Secondly, we live together in a city away from both of our families who have very little contact with either and no money if we did. If we separated, we would both have nowhere to go. Moreover I need to stay in the city in order to complete this work.

Some extra information. I met a man the other day at a party without my bf. He had his life together, my ages, and was asking me on a date. I said no, obviously, but I couldn't help but feel that I wanted to run away with him. I have tried so much to help him and his career with no progress. I love him, and so does my family, but I dont know if I can continue. I want to be here for him always, but it's getting harder.

Any advice is very welcome, I really do love and care for this man. I want both of us to be happy.

Please dm me if possible x