2 men who are both in love with me, and I with them, both have internalized homophobia. So #1 decided to friendzone me (we're just friends and #1 is too inconsistent and moody), and the other is engaged to a woman, so #2 and I might get along better as best friends.

Bros - I've moved on, long ago. But I still think of them every day (even though I talk to both of them once a week, or whenever I have time). If you knew you and your best friend were in love with each other, and you know it'd work out but he's scared due to internalized homophobia, how would you cope with it?

I've got 4 guys in my past (2 are close friends, 2 are ex-boyfriends) who I think of constantly, and wonder, "If we were together, how would our lives be together?" When my current boyfriend pulls away (he's emotionally unavailable), I immediately think of those 4 guys and how heartbroken I am that they won't come back and tell me how much they love me. I just know it's never going to happen. I moved on, and that's how it will always be.