I (29M) recently moved to a new city where I mostly just have acquaintances, had a career change, and it’s my first time living alone.

Through all this change of finding an apartment and moving, I was texting a grindr guy and it was more chatting than I ever do. I realize now how much of a welcome distraction that was from the anxiety of starting a new chapter. We had a really good date and fooled around after and kept talking for weeks until he told me he met someone else.

So that’s done now but after a couple weeks, I’m still having trouble bouncing back. I’ve felt really anxious and insecure and less motivated than I always have been. I don’t care what’s on TV or the book I was reading or exploring the city I’ve always planned on living in. I feel really lonely and down in the dumps. I’m trying to make new connections, but I can tell my mind’s really not in it. All I want to do is cuddle this guy and feel special again. I know I didn’t really know him, I think this is mostly a slump from all the life changes and I don’t often get the chance to connect with guys who are my type. I’ve been on plenty of dates before and had my share of rejection but I’m struggling to dust myself off after this one. I’m hoping if I ride it out, I’ll start feeling like myself again.

Have you ever dealt with feelings like this?