I don't know if there's a time limit after which one can say "I love you". We're together for almost 6 months and it was really slow. He's a gay cop that had never had sex with another man. Many of the things we did were for the first time for him.

I know he's struggling. He's in love with his career. It was the only thing he enjoyed. As he said himself, he would stay alone forever so he needed a job that would make a difference. He wanted to fight for justice. He says people laugh at this but this was his only goal all these years.

We had sex after months of being together. It was not the best experience. He felt hut and I felt guilty for him feeling hurt. We haven't had sex since but we're "satisfying" one another in ways that don't require penetration.

He has no clue how it is to date a man and this makes him cute. He's bought me flowers, teddy bears and a pen that looks like a syringe (I'm a physician).

He says that I made him feel things that he thought were not meant for him. He said he feels happy when he sees me, he misses me when I'm not there. He cares for me. He thinks that this is what people call love and if this is the case, then he loves me. He even said that I'm the reason he cares to come back home. Before meeting me he thought that if something happened to him at work, it wouldn't matter, nobody would miss him and he wouldn't meet anybody.

I feel that he's deeply traumatized for "no reason". I'm saying no reason because he's a handsome man and, like the rest of us, he deserves to be happy.