Hey! So i’ve been seeing someone for a few months now, and everything is mostly great. I am the top most of the time, and he is the bottom. We try to switch it up sometimes, but I have always had a hard time bottoming.

Using regular lube and doing it raw just burns my insides for some reason.

Using lidocaine lube works, but it is still hard to take and it makes it hard for him to finish anyways

Raw with spit has been what has been working the best so far, but it takes forever like i have to let him sit in me all the way for a few minutes for it to feel somewhat comfortable for me

Then the other day we tried it with a condom. The difference was insane- the lube didn’t make me burn and there was no pain involved with his size, as was the problem with using spit. I genuinely actually enjoyed bottoming for the first time during that and now i just keep thinking about doing it more. The problem is that he had a hard time finishing while wearing the condom, and i don’t really like the thought of needing him to wear one every time i bottom.

Does anyone know why it is so much easier with a condom, and how i can make it easier for me to bottom without him wearing one?