I live in central London, active sexual life but I want to find something regular. I only meet with single guys who say they are also looking for more than just a hookup.

My experience has been - we meet, go to a bar, great conversation, then head over to mine or his place. Have great sex, sometimes twice, lots of cuddles, kisses, eye contact, body contact, banter etc. Sometimes chat even after sex. So that all always feel good.

But after - when I try to keep contact, conversations quickly becomes one-sided. Sometimes I feel guy is 1000% into me, but never hear from him again.

I tried asking before leaving couple of times if the guy wants to meet again, answer is usually very politely non-commital.

It comes to the point when I feel I am always the one making an effort or taking the lead.

What's the trick? Or one-time only is the name of the game?