I'm still waiting for a sexual partner who is into everything I'm into, to be honest. Guys can't keep up with me sexually - I'm 28, pansexual, kinky, a vers top, men love assuming I'm a bottom (which has annoyed me my entire life), but I love rough, hardcore sex and have other "things" in bed, that (as a black man myself, who's 28) my sexual partners - and even guys I have crushes on - feel cross the line and violate their boundaries. It's.... a huge let down, sexually, for me - It feels like I might never be fully seen. I have yet to find someone who I'm 100% sexually compatible with - even my boyfriends (I'm poly) think I'm too kinky for them. So I bring in bottoms, but it's..... tough. I just want to click with someone sexually, 100% of the time, not 0% of the time. I have 4 boyfriends (2 tops, 2 bottoms), and still have a hunger that needs to be satisfied. It's like nothing I ask for or do in bed, is ever good enough. And it's exactly the same for me, in my relationships - men always expect me to conform to everything they want (while my needs and concerns are disregarded every time). I start to feel controlled by them and resent them; but then, they only listen to my concerns for our relationship, after I threaten to dump them. It's the most frustrating thing in the world. Is it too much to ask, that all I want is romance out of bed, and real love-making in bed? Am I asking for too much, sexually?