Recently I have started to feel some mild feelings of shame for being gay. Which is interesting since I am in my early 20s and hadn't felt this at all before. I think the driving factor for this is feeling "different" than my other male friends, who are all straight. I can't relate to them when they speak about women but it has also made me start pondering about how even though I want children, it won't feel the same as being in a hetero relationship. I've also been putting deeper thought into why I am gay and what is the main cause for being gay. Now this isn't to say that I hate myself or other gays or blame anyone. But I have been thinking about the "what-ifs". Anyone else feel like this before? Is it common for guys around my age that are still looking for their identity? I don't want these feelings to get worse which is my biggest worry.