Edit: Feel I should put this edit above the text because I forgot to even say that I've been recently diagnosed with ADHD and have been taking Adderall.

I feel awful right now. I have this tendency that keeps ruining things for me.

I'm gay and use apps like grindr and sniffies often to find people to either hookup with, befriend, or sometimes just chat because I'm lonely and I want some sort of human connection.

The problem happens when I'm talking with someone and we might agree to hang out at some point and then they stop responding to me. Then I'll start trying to talk to them again and again and again, sending messages when I see they are online. Sometimes it's to just chat or it could be to set up plans for later in the day or that evening. I almost panic at times just because I get so in my own head and impatient. I never get angry or rude, usually I'll try to apologize for it and write that person off. Then I start to feel bad. I get feelings like I'm being too worried, anxious, impatient, borderline paranoid, and I just get plain old sad and down over it all. I feel like I came off as desperate and pathetic.

This also happens if it is someone that I previously hooked up with or hung out with. I don't know what the proper etiquette is for saying hey to them again but I'm guessing I'm doing that too soon. I feel like I just can't stop because I just don't want to lose the connection to someone.

I wish I knew how to control this tendency but in my head I think "just message them again, they're online and maybe just didn't see that you'd sent them a message a little while ago". Then I'll get paranoid that I'm being annoying and apologize for what I've done and how I don't mean to do that.

How can I control this behavior and explain myself if I do wind up falling into this cycle?