I’m about to turn 40 and I’m preparing to retire from the military after 22 years of service. It’s a strange and unsettling feeling. The military has been my life for so long – providing structure, purpose, and a close-knit community. Now, as I stand on the brink of retirement, I find myself feeling incredibly lonely and unsure about what comes next.

In this void, I’ve found myself turning to Grindr, hoping to find some sort of connection, love, or even just companionship. I guess I’m trying to fill the gap that the military is leaving behind. But I often find myself wondering – what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I seem to figure out what to do next or how to move forward?

I’d love to hear from anyone who has been through a similar transition. How did you cope with the loneliness and the uncertainty? How did you find your path post-military? Any advice or suggestions on how to navigate this new chapter in life would be greatly appreciated.